How do I stop my negative thoughts?

"How do I stop my negative thoughts?" - is a question that I have been asked many times. If you have ever asked this question then you will feel such enormous relief in knowing the answer, because it is so simple. How do you stop negative thoughts? You plant good thoughts!

When you try to stop negative thoughts, you are focusing on what you don't want - negative thoughts - and you will attract an abundance of them. They can never disappear if you are focused on them. The "stop" part is irrelevant - the negative thoughts are your focus. It doesn't matter if you are trying to stop negative thoughts or control them or push them away, the result is the same. Your focus is on negative thoughts, and by the law of attraction you are inviting more of them to you.

The truth is always simple and it is always easy. To stop negative thoughts, just plant good thoughts! Deliberately plant good thoughts! You plant good thoughts by making it a daily practice to appreciate all the things in your day. Appreciate your health, your car, your home, your family, your job, your friends, your surroundings, your meals, your pets, and the magnificent beauty of the day. Compliment, praise, and give thanks to all things. Every time you say "Thank you" it is a good thought! As you plant more and more good thoughts, the negative thoughts will be wiped out. Why? Because your focus is on good thoughts, and what you focus on you attract.

So don't give any attention to negative thoughts. Don't worry about them. If any come, make light of them, shrug them off, and let them be your reminder to deliberately think more good thoughts now.

The more good thoughts you can plant in a day, the faster your life will be utterly transformed into all good. If you spend only one day speaking of good things and saying "Thank you" at every single opportunity, you will not believe your tomorrow. Deliberately thinking good thoughts is exactly like planting seeds. As you think good thoughts you are planting good seeds inside you, and the Universe will transform those seeds into a garden of paradise. How will the garden of paradise appear? As your life!

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10 Steps to Build Self Confidence

Build Self Confidence

Self-confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits. Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality — the more self-confidence you have, the more likely it is you’ll succeed. Although many of the factors affecting self-confidence are beyond your control, there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self-confidence. By using these 10 strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential.


1. Dress Sharp
Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest styles.This doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is “spend twice as much, buy half as much”. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.

2. Walk Faster
One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self-confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.

3. Good Posture
Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self-confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.

4. Personal Commercial
One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.

5. Gratitude
When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.

6. Compliment other people
When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to complement those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self-confidence . By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

7. Sit in the front row
In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self-confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self-confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.

8. Speak up
During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

9. Work out
Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self-confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physcial appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.

10. Focus on Contribution
Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self-confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.

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Limiting Ourselves In Comfort Zones

We are basically unlimited beings. But we limit ourselves in many comfort zones. We have a lot of conditionings which, in reality, are mental. 

Some mosquitoes were put in a box and they kept jumping a lot. The box was covered from the top and each time they jumped they hit the top of the box, and when they jumped too close to the right or the left they hit the sides of the box. Slowly, to avoid harming themselves, they learned to jump just under the cover and without reaching the sides of the box. One day all the four sides of the box were opened. The mosquitoes were free, but they kept on jumping as far as the limit they had learned. The physical limits were no longer there. But they had become conditioned mentally. The same thing happens to us. We have to open the sides of the box and take off the top, or we can continue to live inside the box created by our own mind. 

Given below are some conditionings under which we work, because of which we do not experience complete freedom.

* Beliefs, acquired since our childhood, which limit us.
* The negative images of low self esteem that we have created of ourselves.
* The damaging thoughts of doubt, which does not let the highway of trust to build up inside ourselves and does not allow the creative energy of positivity to flow from inside us to the outside.
* The fear of failure or not being to able to succeed completely. A lot of times the fear exists due to past experiences of failure or not having succeeded as much as you would have liked.

We need to become aware of what our pattern of thoughts is, which brings us under the negative influence of mental conditionings. When that happens, we will be able to become free of these conditionings. While we do not become aware, we will continue to remain under its influence.

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10 Thoughts

1. Prayer is not a "spare wheel" that you pull out when in trouble, but it is a "steering wheel" that directs the right path throughout life.

2. Why is a car's windshield so large & the rear view mirror so small? Because our PAST is not as important as our FUTURE. So, look ahead and move on. 

3. Friendship is like a BOOK. It takes a few seconds to burn, but it takes years to write. 

4. All things in life are temporary. If they are going well, enjoy them, they will not last forever. If they are going wrong, don't worry, they can't last long either.

5. Old friends are gold! New friends are diamond! If you get a diamond, don't forget the gold! To hold a diamond, you always need a base of gold!

6. Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, God smiles from above and says, "Relax, sweetheart; it's just a bend, not the end!"

7. When God solves your problems, you have faith in HIS abilities; when God doesn't solve your problems, He has faith in YOUR abilities.

8. A blind person asked God: "Can there be anything worse than losing eye sight?" He replied: "Yes, losing your vision!"

9. When you pray for others, God listens to you and blesses them, and sometimes, when you are safe and happy, remember that someone has prayed for you.

10. Worrying does not take away tomorrow's troubles; it takes away today's PEACE

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10 of Gandhi's Memorable Quotes

October 2 saw the birthday of Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi (1869-1948)  better known as Mahatma Gandhi. The Indian luminary, famous for leading the Indian nation to independence in peaceful means, is deemed an inspirational figure to this day, over 60 years after his death in 1948. 

As a tribute to Gandhi, here’s a collection of some of his thought-provoking quotes. 

1.
ON LIFE
"My life is my message."

2.
ON BEING A SOLDIER
“I regard myself as a soldier, though a soldier of peace.“

3.
ON FAITH IN HUMANITY
“You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty."

4.
ON NONVIOLENCE
“Nonviolence is the first article of my faith. It is also the last article of my creed.”

5.
ON THE SEVEN SINS
“Seven social sins: politics without principles, wealth without work, pleasure without conscience, knowledge without character, commerce without morality, science without humanity, and worship without sacrifice."

6.
ON TRUTH
“An error does not become truth by reason of multiplied propagation, nor does truth become error because nobody sees it. Truth stands, even if there be no public support. It is self sustained.”

7.
ON THE "STILL SMALL VOICE"
“The only tyrant I accept in this world is the 'still small voice' within me. And even though I have to face the prospect of being a minority of one, I humbly believe I have the courage to be in such a hopeless minority.”

8.
ON LIBERTY
“I’m a lover of my own liberty, and so I would do nothing to restrict yours.”

9.
ON FORGIVENESS
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” 

10.
ON THE NATURE OF MAN
“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes."

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EASY OR DIFFICULT?

Easy is to get a place is someone's address book. 
Difficult is to get a place in someone's heart. 

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others
Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes

Easy is to talk without thinking
Difficult is to refrain the tongue

Easy is to hurt someone who loves us.
Difficult is to heal the wound...

Easy is to forgive others
Difficult is to ask for forgiveness

Easy is to set rules.
Difficult is to follow them...

Easy is to dream every night.
Difficult is to fight for a dream...

Easy is to show victory.
Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity...

Easy is to admire a full moon.
Difficult to see the other side...

Easy is to stumble with a stone.
Difficult is to get up...

Easy is to enjoy life every day.
Difficult to give its real value...

Easy is to promise something to someone.
Difficult is to fulfill that promise...

Easy is to say we love.
Difficult is to show it every day...

Easy is to criticize others.
Difficult is to improve oneself...

Easy is to make mistakes.
Difficult is to learn from them...

Easy is to weep for a lost love.
Difficult is to take care of it so not to lose it.

Easy is to think about improving.
Difficult is to stop thinking it and put it into action...

Easy is to think bad of others
Difficult is to give them the benefit of the doubt...

Easy is to receive
Difficult is to give

Easy to read this
Difficult to follow

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Simple Thoughts

I Met Money and Said You Are Just A Piece of Paper
Money Smiled & Said Of Course,
But I Haven't Seen A Dust Bin For Me Yet!

Meaningful Message:
A Tongue Has No Bones.
But It Can Break A Heart.
It Can Also Be A Pillar For Building A Broken Heart!

Tomorrow Will Come Daily.
But Today Will Come Today Only.
So Finish Your Today's Work Today Itself.
And Be Free Tomorrow.

Every Night We Go To Bed,
We Have No Assurance To Get Up Alive In The Next Morning
But Still You Have Plans For The Coming Day;
That's Hope!

What Is Forgiveness?
It Is The Wonderful Smell That A Flower Gives......
When it’s Being Crushed!

Do You Know
Who Is The Most Sweetest Couple in the World?
SMILE and TEARS. They Meet Rarely.
But When They Meet,
The Moment Becomes UNFORGETTABLE.

What is Success?
When Your SIGNATURE Changes to
AUTOGRAPH.

-Richness is
NOT Earning, Spending or Saving More,
Richness is, When You Need "NO MORE."
  Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter

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Simple Thoughts

1:- If the Road is Beautiful then, Worry About the Destination, But if the Destination is Beautiful, Then Don't Worry About The Road! 

2. We Always Feel that GOD Never comes on Time When We Call Him...But the Truth is "He is Always on Time" But "We are Always in Hurry!

3.Trust the One Who can See, These Three Thing in You, Sorrow Behind Your SMILE, Love Behind Your ANGER & Reason Behind Your SIL ENCE!

4.Beautiful things Are not Always Good, But Good things are Always Beautiful!

5.Never Miss the First Opportunity, Because the Second Opportunity Will be Much More Difficult than First!

6.Dreams Aren't those That You Have when You are Asleep, Dreams are Those that Don't Let You Sleep till They are Fulfilled!

7:- Its Purity of Heart that Matters, Not the External Appearance. Because Helping Hands are Always,Better than Praying Lips!

8:- No one could actually say that you deserve better. Because the best thing that you deserve, will always be your choice.

9:- When your Time is Good, Your Mistakes are taken As a Joke! But When Your Time is Bad, Even your Jokes are Noticed as Mistakes!

10:- We Judge Ourselves By what We Feel we're Capable of Doing, While Others Judge us By what We have Already Done!

11:- If you damage the character of another, you damage your own. 

12:- LAUGH like You have Never Cried, PLAY like You have Never Lost, LOVE like You have Never Hurt And LIVE like There is No Tomorrow!

13:- Two Things that Define SUCCESS In LIFE: - The Way You Manage when You Have Nothing & Way You Behave when You Have Everything!

14:- Never Be too Proud of who You are & What Position you Hold Because After a Game of Chess The King & The Puns are tossed Into The Same box.....

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Alter Your life! By Altering Your Attitude!!

 

In many ways, we all are alike; however, one little difference almost always makes us a big difference. The little difference is attitude.

"The greatest discovery of this generation is that a human being can alter their life by altering their attitude." Over the years we have seen it happen countless times. What most people fail to realize is that your attitude not only impacts your happiness and your success, it also can impact the happiness and success of all the people around you...your family, your friends, and your peers at work. Attitudes truly are contagious, and from time to time we need to ask ourselves..."is mine worth catching?"

• Manage your energy levels
• Keep your soul alive
• Take new paths
• Reduce stress
• Develop the "Human Touch"
• Attack your fears
• Live in awe
• Savor small successes
• Burn brightly without burning out
• Hang on when the storms blow through

By: Swami Udit Chaitanyaji

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Alexander the Great's Last 3 Wishes

Alexander, after conquering many kingdoms, was returning home. On the way, he fell ill and it took him to his death bed. With death staring him in his face, Alexander realized how his conquests,his great army, his sharp sword and all his wealth were of no consequence. 

He now longed to reach home to see his mother's face and bid her his last adieu. But, he had to accept the fact that his sinking health would not permit him to reach his distant homeland. 

So, the mighty conqueror lay prostrate and pale, helplessly waiting to breathe his last. He called his generals and said, "I will depart from this world soon, I have three wishes, please carry them out without fail."

With tears flowing down their cheeks, the generals agreed to abide by their king's last wishes.
1) "My first desire is that", said Alexander, 
"My physicians alone must" carry my coffin." 

2) After a pause, he continued, 

"Secondly, I desire that when my coffin is being carried to the grave, the path leading to the graveyard be strewn with gold, silver and precious stones which I have collected in my treasury".

3) The king felt exhausted after saying this. He took a minute's rest and continued. 
"My third and last wish is that both my hands be kept dangling out of my coffin". 

The people who had gathered there wondered at the king's strange wishes. But no one dared bring the question to their lips.. Alexander's favorite general kissed his hand and pressed them to his heart. 
"O king, we assure you that all your wishes will be fulfilled. But tell us why do you make such strange wishes?"

At this Alexander took a deep breath and said: 
"I would like the world to know of the three lessons I have just learnt.

Lessons to be learnt from last 3 wishes of King Alexander...

I want my physicians to carry my coffin because people should realize that no doctor on this earth can really cure any body. They are powerless and cannot save a person from the clutches of death. 

So let not people take life for granted.

The second wish of strewing gold, silver and other riches on the path to the graveyard is to tell People that not even a fraction of gold will come with me. I spent all my life Greed of Power, earning riches but cannot take anything with me. 

Let people realize that it is a sheer waste of time to chase wealth.

And about my third wish of having my hands dangling out of the coffin, I wish people to know that I came empty handed into this world and empty handed I go out of this world".

With these words, the king closed his eyes. 

Soon he let death conquer him and breathed his last. . . . 

LESSON TO LEARN:

Remember, your Health is in your own hands, look after it.

Wealth is only meaningful if you can share and also enjoy 

While you are still alive, kicking & healthy.

What you do for yourself, dies with you. 

But what you do for others will live for ever. 

Leave the “Legacy” behind.

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Why Winners Keep Winning

Winning is indeed a habit… It is not a coincidence that Winners keep winning. If you closely look at winners, you will tend to observe a behavior pattern that helps them or in fact keeps them winning. Here are the top 6 habits as to why Winners Keep Winning

 

1.       Positive – Winners are quite positive about opportunities and that they know that things will work in their favor. A positive thinking always makes you feel good through the day and hence more action.

2.       Learning – Winners always feel the urge to learn from everyone from every opportunity that they get. They are open to learning and hence grow continuously.

3.       No Distractions – Eye of the Tiger, eye of the tiger… Just stay focused and they are least carried away by smaller things of life.

4.       Best People around them – Winner don’t have people who are negative around them. They prefer to have the best people with them so that they can stay motivated at all times.

5.       Determination and Consistency – Might be cliché but that’s the fact. They are determined to success, more than anyone who is an average achiever. Consistency is the key!

6.       Heads up – Winners are heads up and figure out things much before. They anticipate things that may happen and hence they act right.

Winning is an art and hence the same is to be practiced. Being consistent with the above 6 would help you to achieve your success over and over again. You have been successful in the past; you need to maintain it to elevate your life.

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Every Husband (and Wife too) ----- should read this

BELIEF - 1
WIFE WILL NEVER BE SATISFIED:
TRUTH :
Wife is always looking for ways to makes things better. Dont take her suggestions as Complaints or Critisms, but as her desire to make the Relationship or Situation the best that it can be.

BELIEF - 2
A STRONG, CONFIDENT WOMAN DOESN'T NEED A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF HER :
TRUTH :
Everyone Loves To Be Taken Care Of and To Feel Needed. Even if a Woman can fix things around the house or change the oil in her car, She will still ask for help so she can feel Your Strength, Support and Protection. Dont Ever Stop Asking, Å"What Can I Do For You ? because it shows her that you care :

BELIEF - 3 :
Wife ONLY WANTS TO CONTROL Husband :
TRUTH :
It is Not About Control ; Its About Love. When a Wife sees Husband Hurting , Struggling or Overwhelmed, Her Goal is to Help, Not Control. Let Her give You a Helping Hand.

BELIEF - 4 :
KEEPING A WIFE REQUIRES A LOT OF HARD WORK, TIME AND MONEY :
TRUTH :
A Serious Relationship Requires Time and Effort to Cultivate It. You shouldnt Look at it as a Burden. Your Wife  will reciprocate the effort you put into it.

BELIEF - 5 :
YOU CAN'T LIE TO WIFE :
TRUTH :
Wife is Extremely Capable of Picking up Moods and Attitudes and can easily read Body Language and Facial Expressions. Although You may think that You have gotten away with a Great Lie, She is either letting it slide because She wants to keep the Peace, or She is Lying to Herself because Shes Afraid of the Truth.

BELIEF - 6 :
JEALOUSY AND POSSESSIVENESS ARE A PART OF BEING A WIFE:
TRUTH:
Wife is Protective of What Belongs to them. They Protect the things they Value, especially when it comes to Relationships. It is not that she doesnt Trust You ; She is Guarding the Relationship. You are too Precious to Her for Her to allow anything bad to happen .

BELIEF - 7 :
WIFE IS EMOTIONAL :
TRUTH :
Wives Don't Hide their Feelings. She articulates what is going on in her Mind. There s nothing wrong with emotions.. We All Have Them. Being in Touch with her emotions causes wife to be Sensitive and Caring, and thats why Husbands Love Them...

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